Connectedness

Connection is key to a rich, fulfilling human existence. Feeling a connection to something allows a person to share a piece of herself. This, “sharing of oneself,” is essential from little on.

“Mama, I want a hug.” This is a common request from my two-year old daughter. “Mama, scratch my back, please.” This is another one that has frequented itself. (I can’t even be annoyed. Who doesn’t love having their back scratched?)

“Babe, when you walk past me, can you please touch my back?” My husband’s love language is touch. He admits he can be needy at times, but I actually really appreciate that about him. I can tell when I haven’t connected with him in a while. He becomes easily aggravated and at times, impatient. I understand. When I feel disconnected to someone or something, I am not my best self either.

“Honey, let’s go for a walk and talk about life.” This one is all me. My way of connecting with others is through words. I’m a word girl. I love having deep conversations. I crave rich poetry that inspires me to think, believe, say, or do. I love doing crossword puzzles or playing scrabble. I love dreaming together with my husband and discussing life goals. I love reading. I even love singing. I am a word girl. On that same token, words hurt me most. My most devastating moments in life were when someone verbalized disbelief in me. “You can’t do that.” “You are not good enough for that”…etc. Nothing can disconnect me more quickly than a harsh comment.

This community of writers has connected with me. I see other people that thrive on using words to express themselves. I feel a part of something meaningful. I feel a part of something powerful. I feel a strong connection to this community. I feel connected.

I know that once this challenge has ceased, I will miss it. Don’t get me wrong, writing daily has been exhausting. I am even going to admit to missing a few days.

For now, I will embrace this feeling of connectedness. Moving forward, I hope to be more aware of what others need to feel connected.

Thank you, writing community, for allowing me this privilege to walk with you through this writing challenge. Until we meet again, stay connected.

Advertisements

6 thoughts on “Connectedness

  1. My thoughts exactly. I love the designation “word girl.” This was my favorite part: This community of writers has connected with me. I see other people that thrive on using words to express themselves. I feel a part of something meaningful. I feel a part of something powerful. I feel a strong connection to this community. I feel connected.

    Remember, we can connect on SOL Tuesdays!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. I love how reflective this was about yourself but also your family members. I think I am the same in that when I feel disconnected I start to separate myself further. Something I definitely think you have pinpointed here and something that you are actively trying to avoid doing. I also find myself to be a word girl. Thanks for sharing!

    Like

  3. Joy,
    Your writing was such an inspiration this month. Each day, I was able to connect with you through words – even though, all I did was read them, I saw you and heard your voice through the letters and symbols you choose to press on your keyboard that day. While I didn’t comment each day, I was there receiving. And, that was a gift to me. For that, I thank you, dear friend. 🙂
    Shari

    Liked by 1 person

  4. What a thoughtful, sensitive reflection. I was first reminded of the power of touch and how detrimental it is to babies if they aren’t held much. Then your words about being connected to something powerful with this writing community beautifully reiterates how much we all need each other on the most fundamental level. This is a lovely post.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. I hear you…”I know that once this challenge has ceased, I will miss it. Don’t get me wrong, writing daily has been exhausting.” Expect a feeling of withdrawal of sorts… At least I did my first two years (this is my third). But remember, same time, same place, every Tuesday a lot of us do SOLs. I will look for you there! And you should join #PoetryFriday. Lots of us are there, too. You don’t have to write poetry. You can write about a poem or a poet or a poetry book. It is hosted by a different blogger each week. I gave links to this week and to the schedule at the bottom of my Friday post.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s